The Lead As You Are Journal

This is my collection of reflections, stories, and truth-telling essays—originally published on LinkedIn, now gathered here in one place for easier reading.

They explore themes from my Lead As You Are coaching roadmap: identity, belonging, clarity, courage, confidence, self-leadership, and what it means to live and lead from a place of authenticity, integrity and honesty (and the occasional emotional plot twist).

You're welcome to read them in any order—follow what resonates. Some pieces are funny. Some are tender. All of them are written for people who’ve been quietly carrying questions like:
“Where do I belong?”
“Why do I feel so tired?”
“Is it OK to want more than this?”

If that’s you—you’re home.

Bring your favorite beverage. Read On.

Welcome in.

Coming Home to Ourselves

Clarity isn’t loud, but it’s strangely life-saving. This piece reflects on growing up as a CODA, the messy path of emotional over-functioning, and the quiet relief of making one decision—just one—that actually feels like yours.

I Love You Too – And Other Generous Assumptions That Make Life EasierEver

Sometimes, the static between us and the people we love isn’t from what they said—but from what we think we heard. This piece explores how our inner screenwriter turns vague silence into a crisis—and how practicing kinder assumptions can soothe more than just our nervous system.

The Small Potato Syndrome

Ever hear someone say, “I’m just a small potato”?
It’s funny. Until it’s not. This piece explores why so many of us—especially those who’ve lived between cultures—learn to shrink ourselves without even noticing.

Holistic Leadership: The Influence We Don’t Even Know We Have

Leadership isn’t about job titles or charisma levels. It’s about dancing badly in a bar in Toronto—and somehow inspiring someone to change their life. This article is a gentle (and spicy) reminder that the way we live is the way we lead.

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